Reboot your relationships. Reboot your pleasure.
For those who want to enjoy sex again.
Perhaps there was a time when pornography felt like an exciting escape, yet now you find yourself searching for bigger hits that are not only affecting your personal life, they just don’t feel pleasurable anymore.
“I want to overcome both my mental and physical issues brought about by porn addiction. I am ready to make peace with myself as a man.”
-Sam, Brooklyn, NY (Client)
Addiction is a strong word, which may not apply to you. Perhaps you’re concerned about a decline in arousal with real partners, or you feel there’s something shameful about your fantasies or perhaps you’re uncomfortable with the type of porn you’re turned on by.
Wherever you find yourself on this spectrum, the most important thing to know is that you are not alone and help is available.
Signs of Porn Overconsumption
Unlike other behaviours (drugs, alcohol, etc) porn does not have a limit for consumption and can be secretly accessed anytime in the privacy of your own home. This can make it more challenging to recognize the impact it’s having on us and to reach out to others for support.
Some signs of porn overconsumption are:
- Erectile Dysfunction;
- Delayed Ejaculation;
- Lack of interest in real partners;
- Escalation to porn that doesn’t match original taste or makes you uncomfortable;
- Shame about fantasies or turn ons;
- Negative impact on relationships;
- Interfering with daily life or goals.
Overcoming porn addiction alone is difficult because the habit is so integrated with daily life. For example, an alcoholic may avoid pubs or a drug user may avoid the people they used with, whereas the triggers for porn are more nuanced. Something as a simple as being alone or turning on your phone can trigger a habitual response.
My work was born out of a passion for helping men embrace their full capacity as sexual beings.
In a world with dwindling men’s spaces, rights of passage ceremonies and physical connection nature, I want to support your journey towards reclaiming your sense of self.
Given that no two bodies are the same, each treatment plan is custom curated to your specific needs and goals.
By focusing on restoring the relationship between mind and body, I typically draw on the following approaches:
- Meditation;
- Somatic/Body Based Exercises;
- Talk Therapy;
- Shadow Integration;
- Client-Directed Touch.
For treatment to be effective, you need to be open and willing to let go of the patterns affecting your quality of life. It can be tough work but it’s worth the effort to end the habitual shame cycle you’ve been living with.
If you are ready to begin your journey towards reclaiming your sense of self, I invite you to book a no-obligation 30-minute complimentary consultation.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do You Have Sex with your Clients?
No.
If you are interested in Surrogate Partner Therapy, visit: https://www.surrogatetherapy.org/finding-a-therapist
How Often Do You Recommend Sessions?
For the most quickest and most consistent progress, I recommend weekly sessions.
Not everyone is able to attend one session a week, in which case, one session every two weeks is fine.
Do Online Sessions Work?
Definitely! Although nothing can fully replace the experience of doing this work live with an experienced practitioner, I have personally experienced that many of these practices allow for powerful transformation through online sessions.
I Still Don't Fully Understand What you Do.
I totally get it! This is a new field and it’s difficult to explain without actually experiencing it for yourself. That’s why I’m happy to have a complimentary online 30-minute consultation to answer any other questions you have.